What is CFS?
2) Four or more of the following concurrent symptoms on a persistent or recurrent basis during six or more months of illness, none of which may predate the fatigue: Self-reported impairment in short-term memory or concentration severe enough to cause substantial reduction in previous levels of occupational, educational, social or personal activities; sore throat; tender cervical or axillary lymph nodes; muscle pain; multi-joint pain without joint swelling or redness; headaches of a new type, pattern, or severity; unrefreshing sleep; and post exertional malaise lasting more that 24 hours. CDC.
Disbelief and Invalidation
"You look fine to me."
"Hey, you look good. You must be better."
"I get tired too or Iíve had that too."
The unspoken message here is:
|"Can you be there next Thursday at 8?"
"I know youíll be well enough to see me."
"How are you feeling?"
"Donít you remember?"
Isolation and Dependency
|Call up friends or family with CFS, visit, or drop them a card in the mail - whatever theyíre feeling up to - so they know you havenít forgotten them.|
"Is this a good time to visit?"
Courtesy of Sue Boettcher CFS Site. (see quick links)